【诗127:3】儿女是耶和华所赐的产业，所怀的胎是他所给的赏赐。【Psa127:3】 Children are a heritage from the LORD , offspring a reward from him.

诗人提醒我们，儿女是耶和华所赐的产业，是祂给我们的赏赐。父母只是神所托付的管家，因此，养育儿女不只是责任，更是一份从神而来的托付。The psalmist reminds us that children are a heritage from the Lord and a reward He gives us. Parents are simply stewards entrusted by God. Therefore, raising children is not only a responsibility, but also a trust given to us by God.

很多时候，我们容易把孩子的表现、成绩和将来的成就，当作衡量自己是否成功的标准。Many times, we easily treat our children’s behaviour, academic results, and future achievements as a measure of whether we ourselves are successful.孩子顺利，我们就骄傲；孩子出现问题，我们就焦虑、愤怒，甚至想用自己的方式控制他们。但这节经文提醒我们：孩子首先属于神。When our children do well, we become proud; when they have problems, we become anxious or angry, and even try to control them in our own way. But this verse reminds us that our children belong first to God.我们不能把孩子当作实现自己期待的工具，也不能把他们的人生扛在自己肩上。We cannot treat them as instruments for fulfilling our own expectations, nor can we carry the burden of their whole lives on our own shoulders.

我们做父母的要以身作则，自己敬畏神，并在生活中行出神的话。也要教导他们认识神、敬畏神、学习真理，听道行道。As parents, we should lead by example, fearing God ourselves and living out His Word in our daily lives. We should also teach our children to know God, fear God, learn the truth, hear His Word, and put it into practice. 我们可以教导和提醒，但不要替他们做选择和决定，在祷告中学习把他们交托给神，真相信他们终身的事在神的手中。We can teach and remind them, but we should not make every choice and decision for them. Through prayer, we need to learn to entrust them to God and truly believe that their whole lives are in His hands.

神也许可让孩子会触碰我们的软弱，暴露出我们的急躁、控制、骄傲、小信和不信。God may also allow our children to touch our weaknesses and expose our impatience, desire for control, pride, little faith, and unbelief.有时候，我们以为自己是在教导孩子，实际上神也在借着孩子教导我们学习忍耐、谦卑、饶恕和信靠。真正属神的父母，是让神先改变自己，用生命影响生命。Sometimes we think we are teaching our children, but in reality God is also using them to teach us patience, humility, forgiveness, and trust.  Parents who truly belong to God allow Him to change them first, influencing one life through another life.

祷告丨Prayer

亲爱的天父，我来到祢面前承认，很多时候我口里说儿女是祢所赐的产业，心里却仍然把他们当作“我的”。Dear Heavenly Father, I come before You and confess that although I often say with my mouth that my children are a heritage given by You, in my heart I still treat them as “mine”.我想掌控他们的成长，安排他们的道路，决定他们应该成为什么样的人。当他们不符合我的期待时，我就焦虑、失望、愤怒，甚至想用自己的力量去改变他们。I want to control their growth, arrange their paths, and decide what kind of people they should become. When they do not meet my expectations, I become anxious, disappointed, and angry, and even want to change them by my own strength.

主啊，求祢赦免我，因为我常常不是在信靠祢，而是在用自己的控制代替对祢的信靠。Lord, please forgive me, because so often I am not trusting in You, but replacing trust in You with my own control.

主啊，也求祢使我成为一个真正的属灵父母。我不只是给孩子物质、教育和保护，更愿意用自己的生命告诉他们敬畏神的美好恩典。Lord, please also make me a truly godly parent. I do not want merely to provide my children with material needs, education, and protection; I also want to show them through my own life the beautiful grace of fearing God.

愿祢在我们家中居首位，愿祢亲自建造我们的家庭，使我和我的家必定侍奉祢，使我们这一生只为荣耀祢而活。奉主耶稣基督的名祷告，阿们。May You have first place in our home. May You personally build our family, so that as for me and my household, we will serve You, and may we live our whole lives for Your glory alone. In the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, Amen.

（Pastor Guo）